have healthy love for your memories

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For lighter life, we must let go of extra weight we hold in both the physical and mental spaces. I’ve been guilty of keeping things just to be reminded of a window of time. I’ve kept things that weren’t in use, things I rarely looked at. Letting go is a challenge. It can feel like walking away from memories for the last time. But in truth, with or without the items that represent them, memories persist. From memories, wisdom is born and that is what I choose to carry.

Ask yourself: Are the items around me in use? Are they active or do they sit for months? Are they taking up space where other, more useful items can find a home? Or maybe where there could be open space and free energy flow?

If you have inactive objects you can’t seem to let go of, pick them up and set them aside with other inactive objects. Allow the spaces they occupied to reintroduce themselves. Meet the space again and observe how it makes you feel.

piles

Here are some of last week’s piles. Of course I have piles that are more dense and some that are even permanent. But I photographed these because they can be cut through fairly quickly.

Throughout the week I’m in and out of the house, changing clothes, dealing with paperwork, receipts, books, notebooks. When I’m not attentive to putting things back where they belong, I make piles. Temporary piles. The pile becomes a canvas for what’s happening in my life. It becomes a safe space, a place for things that haven’t yet made it back home.

In theory, the pile is a healthy way to keep track of the to do list. But it seems that once an object joins the pile, it becomes less visible. The pile grows, representing the tasks we haven’t finished and the objects in it start to look heavier.

So what to do? Strive for piles that don’t feel like clutter. Comb through your piles at least once a week. Restack the pile neatly or return things to their home. You’ll find in your piles forgotten ideas, unfinished tasks, overdue items and side notes. Learn from your piles.

pile part one

Transform your piles.

pile part two

 

 

before you buy

bringing new things home is a privilege

Because we’re always accumulating, we should always be reassessing the usefulness of what we own. There should be a healthy rotation between what we bring in and what we push out. The importance of this rotation is heightened when we go through drastic changes. Things we once couldn’t live without might start to look and feel outdated, reminiscent of our younger, less wise selves. We might suddenly want to replace everything with what better reflects who we’re becoming.
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before you fill the room

you must feel the room.

Get to know the room. Get to know its textures and respond with what it makes you feel.

feel to fill

Place the chair where it feels right. Leave it there for as long as it feels right. If the placement does not sit well with you, don’t be silent about it. Start dialogue. Move the chair. Move it until both you and the chair agree.

This is how to grow a relationship with the room and objects you keep in it. You love the chair for its function, look, comfort and company. The relationship is one of patience and understanding. If the relationship begins to change, if ever you and the chair can reach no more agreements, you won’t be afraid to let go. you and the chair have agreed to part.

disclaimer

as you read this and any other journal, blog or book, experiment with the advice and do what works for you. I’ve come across endless advice on how to be the best version of one self, but I adopt only what resonates with me and adapt so that it’s tailored to my unique circumstances. The tips in this journal are things I have found to work for me.
Adopt and adapt if you please!

the only way to create harmony at home

don’t stop until it feels right.

Sometimes when we make big design decisions, like where to put the couch, we feel bound to what we decide. It took so much to finally choose a spot, so moving it again would be a hassle. BUT, the objective is not just to move the couch. The objective is to find a place in which the couch harmonizes with other elements in the room; the place where you, the dweller, can function optimally.

front room

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digesting your days

Each time you go into the world, you come home plump with new information and stimulation. Home is the place to break down and digest this info. To do so in a healthy manner, your home needs a few key components:

bed
bath
kitchen
seating
workspace
sacred space

Each should be fine tuned for your body’s needs and regularly maintenanced for optimum function.

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